By Hafsa Nasir
My father always said that in the early times, the ideal of societal upbringing came from every member of the society, that discipline was not just some registered thoughts in the subconscious of men that discipline was disciplined by conscience of fickle scolding rathe discipline was registered with swinging palms and flying whips; carrot and stick approach. It was then that the parents of a faulting child needn’t be kept for the parents to do hence a well-known elder is trusted to exact an appropriate befitting action for the said fault.
In our immediate society, it is however sometimes sad and depressing that the concept of proper discipline is considered mediocre. We are in a mental struggle as to what discipline really means, as to how discipline should be defined and applied to our children and lives. We are in a merry go round of whose fault is it that decadence is becoming geometrically rampant in society; a girl who wears and bum shot and a see-through dress to church to the boy who wears a sagging trouser and smokes on the streets, we wonder where the mistakes were made, where either parents or school has gone wrong in instilling proper morality in our children.
In most cases of all the piece that I have read concerning the decadence of children in society, most of the views opines that moral decadence is either fault of the school, peer or and especially the home, seen as these three are the agents of socialization, however we fail to acknowledge that the society also plays a very pertinent to this regard, that the society is a forerunner and has most impact on the children’s upbringing. I find it rather nauseating that when a child faults and another member of the society sees it fitting to discipline the said child, the parents finds it offensive and takes it up with the disciplinarian as to why he or she must have touched his property as though the child could not have been wrong to have been disciplined by this person, that whatever form of discipline that have been exacted on the child must have been a barbaric act.
It takes two to tango, in a society where all members of society must understand that discipline is collective that the decadence of Joy can also affect his or her daughter Maryam. That we are intertwined and each of us has conscious and unconscious effects on one another. That, that boy we didn’t discipline for stealing because he was our son could be the thief to rob us tomorrow.
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